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Question : Why are my kids rebelling?
I am a mother of three (soon to be four!) children. My oldest is a 17 year old son, then 14 year old twin girls. They were all homeschooled up until last year when my husband lost his job and we had to move into an apartment and I had to get a job along with my husband looking for another job. So we had to send our kids to the local public school. My oldest, who was then 16, went into the 11th grade. And our girls, who were 13, went to 8th grade.Now, we are a very religious Baptist Christian family, and our daughters are not allowed to wear skirts or dresses that are exposing the knee and are not permitted to wear shorts or pants at all. No jeans or tight pants for our boy, and no "sagging". T-shirts are also not permitted for either. The girls' wardrobe consists of khaki and dressy skirts, modest dresses, polos (all buttons done up and collar down), modest blouses, pearl jewelry, and modest flats. The boy's consists of khaki pants, polos, dress shirts, and polished dress shoes. They are not permitted to wear makeup. Both of our girls, at the beginning of the year, had very long curly hair so that they could almost sit on it. It was parted in the middle and naturally brown. Our boy had short and neatly combed and parted hair, again naturally brown. They were all wonderful children, but about a month into the school year they all started rebelling. First, my son Parker refuses to get haircuts as well as refusing to brush his hair. Then my daughter Angela comes home from school with her hair cut to her shoulders and parted on the side with bangs. Then I catch my other daughter Kayla sitting outside our building talking to a boy! This boy looked about 15 and had messy hair with long bangs and was wearing dark blue cargo shorts, a tight black t-shirt that said "blink-182" on it, large and bulky-looking skate shoes, big black things in his ear shaped like circles, and a black and white studded cuff on his wrist. It gets worse. Angela made some...interesting new friends at school and she asked if she could go out to a party with them. My answer was a firm no. Later that night, I was reading in bed and waiting for my husband to get home and I heard the door slam. I got up and, seeing that my husband was not home, checked the kids' rooms. All of my children were gone.They got home sometime that night and I woke up and saw them all in the kitchen, chatting about whatever went on the previous night. Angela was wearing black eyeliner and had a large purple bow in her hair. She had, however, changed into her nightgown. Kayla had on baggy black cargo shorts that went down to her knees, a t-shirt that said "NoFX" across it, a bunch of colored little bracelets on her wrists, a studded cuff around her ankle, and was wearing dirty, beat up black low top converse; her eye makeup was dark like her sister's but without the neon eyeshadow. My son was sporting black and red hair, subtle black eyeliner, a white dress shirt, black skinny tie, a black vest, and tight black jeans covered in chains. He was wearing black and white checkered slip on shoes without socks. Then Kayla came out with bangs and layers cut into her hair. It also looked like she had somehow bleached blonde into her bangs and straightened her hair. I was furious! That following Monday, I looked through their rooms before I went to work (the boy has his own room and the girls share one). I looked through the computer they share and found many counts of unacceptable music under each of their music files. Under Parker, my son's, I found bands such as The Cure, Korn, The Cult, The Sisters of Mercy, Linkin Park, and Rites of Spring. Angela had bands such as Black Veil Brides, Blood On The Dance Floor, Jeffree Star, I Set My Friends On Fire, Parkway Drive, and Brokencyde. Kayla had music such as blink-182, NoFX, Sum 41, My Chemical Romance, Fall Out Boy, Green Day, The Ramones, The Dead Kennedys, Minor Threat, and Mötley Crüe. All of this music is unacceptable, as it is all Satanic and poisonous to young minds such as theirs. And in Kayla's, I found dark, ripped, tight jeans; v-neck t-shirts; converse; vans; t-shirts with bands such as NoFX, a hair straightener and hairspray; and eyeliner! Angela had jeans, Hello Kitty jewelry, t-shirts with those vulgar bands she listens to on them, converse, neon ballet flats, shirts with skulls and robots, mini skirts, and many unacceptable t-shirts. I found no bottoms that were not denim! And as for my son, everything at the back of his closet (where they all hid their clothes) was either black, white, or red. He adorned everything with chains and safety pins, with the occasional Cure t-shirt. He had large skate shoes and a pair of combat boots. I also found piercing needles and tongue jewelry! I went through their texts and they're all dating someone! What is wrong with my kids and how do I fix them? I'm expecting a baby next April and I don't want
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don't worry, they are in their 'punk' phase of their childhood, it will pass over soon enough. but you need to relax. they're going to be adults someday you know and they need to explore. i understand that it must be tough for a mom to protect her kids, but sometimes if you go overboard protecting them, they'll just start rebelling more and more. go and have a talk with your kids. set down some rules like, no going out after 8 pm or no miniskirts, and also lift some rules up. they should be allowed to listen to their own music, maybe you can allow them to wear make up but only a little bit. give the flexibility. they are growing up, they're not your little baby anymore. give them freedom, yet also give them the sense of responsibility. you have to trust them.
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Question : Why are my kids rebelling?
I am a mother of three children. My oldest is a 16 year old son, then a 14 year old daughter, and an 12 year old daughter. They were all homeschooled up until last year when my husband lost his job and we had to move into an apartment and I had to get a job along with my husband looking for another job. So we had to send our kids to the local public school. My oldest, who was then 15, went into the 10th grade. Our middle child, who was 13, went into 8th grade. And our youngest, who was then 11, went into 6th grade. Now, we are a very religious Baptist Christian family, and our daughters are not allowed to wear skirts or dresses that are exposing the knee and are not permitted to wear shorts or pants at all. No jeans or tight pants for our boy, and no "sagging". T-shirts are also not permitted for either. The girls' wardrobe consists of khaki and dressy skirts, modest dresses, polos (all buttons done up and collar down), modest blouses, pearl jewelry, and modest flats. The boy's consists of khaki pants, polos, dress shirts, and polished dress shoes. They are not permitted to wear makeup. Both of our girls, at the beginning of the year, had very long curly hair so that they could almost sit on it. It was parted in the middle and naturally brown. Our boy had short and neatly combed and parted hair, again naturally brown. They were all wonderful children, but about a month into the school year they all started rebelling. First, my son refuses to get haircuts as well as refusing to brush his hair. Then my older daughter comes home from school with her hair cut to her shoulders and parted on the side with bangs. Then I catch my other daughter sitting outside our building talking to a boy! This boy looked about my older daughter's age and had long, messy hair and wore tight, cuffed jeans with checkered slip on shoes and a v-neck t-shirt under a zip up hoodie. It gets worse. My older daughter made some...interesting new friends at school and she asked if she could go out to a party with them. My answer was a firm no. Later that night, I was reading in bed and waiting for my husband to get home and I heard the door slam. I got up and, seeing that my husband was not home, checked the kids' rooms. My son and older daughter were both gone and my youngest was sleeping (or possibly faking sleep) in her bed. My oldest children got home sometime that night and I woke up and saw them both in the kitchen, chatting about whatever went on the previous night. My daughter was wearing black eyeliner and had a large purple bow in her hair. She had, however, changed into her nightgown. My son was sporting black and red hair, subtle black eyeliner, a white dress shirt, black skinny tie, a black vest, and tight black jeans covered in chains. He was wearing similar slip on shoes to the boy my youngest was talking to. Then my youngest came out with bangs and layers cut into her hair. It also looked like she had somehow bleached blonde into her bangs. I was furious! That following Monday, I looked through their rooms before I went to work (the boy has his own room and the girls share one). I looked through the computer they share and found many counts of unacceptable music under each of their music files. Under Kenneth, my son's, I found bands such as The Cure, Korn, The Cult, The Sisters of Mercy, Linkin Park, and Rites of Spring. My older daughter, Olivia, had bands such as Black Veil Brides, Blood On The Dance Floor, Jeffree Star, I Set My Friends On Fire, Parkway Drive, and Brokencyde. My youngest, Andrea, had music such as Bob Dylan, Death Cab for Cutie, Modest Mouse, The Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Neutral Milk Hotel, The Shins, Galt Aureus, and The Doors. All of this music is unacceptable, as it is all Satanic and poisonous to young minds such as theirs. And in my youngest daughter's clothes, I found ripped and cuffed jeans, v-neck t-shirts, converse, fashion scarves, and eyeliner! My older daughter had jeans, Hello Kitty jewelry, t-shirts with those vulgar bands she listens to on them, converse, neon ballet flats, shirts with skulls and robots, mini skirts, and many unacceptable t-shirts. I found no bottoms that were not denim! And as for my son, everything at the back of his closet (where they all hid their clothes) was either black, white, or red. He adorned everything with chains and safety pins, with the occasional Cure t-shirt. He had large skate shoes and a pair of combat boots. I also found piercing needles and tongue jewelry! I went through the older ones' texts (youngest doesnt have a phone) and they're both dating someone! I also caught my youngest kissing a boy! What is wrong with my kids and how do I fix them?
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I am a mother of three children. My oldest is a 16 year old son, then a 14 year old daughter, and an 12 year old daughter. They were all homeschooled up until last year when my husband lost his job and we had to move into an apartment and I had to get a job along with my husband looking for another job. So we had to send our kids to the local public school. My oldest, who was then 15, went into the 10th grade. Our middle child, who was 13, went into 8th grade. And our youngest, who was then 11, went into 6th grade. Now, we are a very religious Baptist Christian family, and our daughters are not allowed to wear skirts or dresses that are exposing the knee and are not permitted to wear shorts or pants at all. No jeans or tight pants for our boy, and no "sagging". T-shirts are also not permitted for either. The girls' wardrobe consists of khaki and dressy skirts, modest dresses, polos (all buttons done up and collar down), modest blouses, pearl jewelry, and modest flats. The boy's consists of khaki pants, polos, dress shirts, and polished dress shoes. They are not permitted to wear makeup. Both of our girls, at the beginning of the year, had very long curly hair so that they could almost sit on it. It was parted in the middle and naturally brown. Our boy had short and neatly combed and parted hair, again naturally brown. They were all wonderful children, but about a month into the school year they all started rebelling. First, my son refuses to get haircuts as well as refusing to brush his hair. Then my older daughter comes home from school with her hair cut to her shoulders and parted on the side with bangs. Then I catch my other daughter sitting outside our building talking to a boy! This boy looked about my older daughter's age and had long, messy hair and wore tight, cuffed jeans with checkered slip on shoes and a v-neck t-shirt under a zip up hoodie. It gets worse. My older daughter made some...interesting new friends at school and she asked if she could go out to a party with them. My answer was a firm no. Later that night, I was reading in bed and waiting for my husband to get home and I heard the door slam. I got up and, seeing that my husband was not home, checked the kids' rooms. My son and older daughter were both gone and my youngest was sleeping (or possibly faking sleep) in her bed. My oldest children got home sometime that night and I woke up and saw them both in the kitchen, chatting about whatever went on the previous night. My daughter was wearing black eyeliner and had a large purple bow in her hair. She had, however, changed into her nightgown. My son was sporting black and red hair, subtle black eyeliner, a white dress shirt, black skinny tie, a black vest, and tight black jeans covered in chains. He was wearing similar slip on shoes to the boy my youngest was talking to. Then my youngest came out with bangs and layers cut into her hair. It also looked like she had somehow bleached blonde into her bangs. I was furious! That following Monday, I looked through their rooms before I went to work (the boy has his own room and the girls share one). I looked through the computer they share and found many counts of unacceptable music under each of their music files. Under Kenneth, my son's, I found bands such as The Cure, Korn, The Cult, The Sisters of Mercy, Linkin Park, and Rites of Spring. My older daughter, Olivia, had bands such as Black Veil Brides, Blood On The Dance Floor, Jeffree Star, I Set My Friends On Fire, Parkway Drive, and Brokencyde. My youngest, Andrea, had music such as Bob Dylan, Death Cab for Cutie, Modest Mouse, The Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Neutral Milk Hotel, The Shins, Galt Aureus, and The Doors. All of this music is unacceptable, as it is all Satanic and poisonous to young minds such as theirs. And in my youngest daughter's clothes, I found ripped and cuffed jeans, v-neck t-shirts, converse, fashion scarves, and eyeliner! My older daughter had jeans, Hello Kitty jewelry, t-shirts with those vulgar bands she listens to on them, converse, neon ballet flats, shirts with skulls and robots, mini skirts, and many unacceptable t-shirts. I found no bottoms that were not denim! And as for my son, everything at the back of his closet (where they all hid their clothes) was either black, white, or red. He adorned everything with chains and safety pins, with the occasional Cure t-shirt. He had large skate shoes and a pair of combat boots. I also found piercing needles and tongue jewelry! I went through the older ones' texts (youngest doesnt have a phone) and they're both dating someone! I also caught my youngest kissing a boy! What is wrong with my kids and how do I fix them?
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Question : Tell me what you think?
These trite, tattered, ponchos and scarfs say p*ss and five bucks about me.I cut my own lawn with silver nail clippersSupported by short, grody fingersThat have been blistered pressing wire hangers downtown, Nebraskaand f*cked real bad scraping pie crust drippings from the bottom of my landlord's gas oven.I sweep the porch before heading off, Tulsa Welding School,place's like a feild day scent, latex caricature.Ovens claming, Tight wound metal devices,like the guts of a clock,tick-tockin'.and studio girls and boys, gather because of collected pompous attitudes,to share slick, icy gestureslip-lockin'without me.I snort ashes from the thighs of virgins,And chew the human adrenaline gland.Clearwater is a perfume luxury,Fish rot while they're still swimming.Mexico CityI bought buckets of cheap jewelry On my visit, to dig for buried treasure,But I didn't like the weather.Now I'm back and wearing leather,Waiting for my umbrella.The first days are spent comptemplating what I know I know.A fraction is a division problem.Mile long one step equations force children over jungle gym tops.A man owns the river I went down to draw,"Tresspassing," the sign complained,Holding me back with a silver chain.I keep on walking.Instead of water, mud and garbage sunk on the bottom of natural craterWhen the silver thawed, swampy pickle trees with thin trunks drooped like tired d*cks,Exhausted sucking moisture from the soft mother bricks.Over the gloss and sticky dirt carnival, hurricane disaster,Plastic bag habitat, Silver man tricksCLEAR WATER IS A PURFUME LUXARY,FISH ROT WHILE THEY'RE STILL SWIMMING.I sat to draw what I saw,and it all turned out quite charming.I seek pleasure. I seek the nerves under your skin. I am old hero, older then wacko pervert superf*cking man. I am wh*re who seeks experience. Excitement. Curiosity. The only conscious thing in our world is to love and be loved. Seek the hollow thrill. Say how you really, really feel. I am sister of the gods and gods own daughter slaughter. Will you be my daddy? Will you be my girlfriend? The single family who branches out from Rome, to Australia, to Brazil, and Puro, to Africa and Nebraska. Desire is a heat rash, but no illusion. Teeter forever on those golden scales, then sing me into eternity. I wanna be you lover. I wanna be your man. Day old Joey with gray hair, premature baby cries heart into salt canal. Secluded movie stars don't get paid for sagging breasts. Cashier boy's Calvin fixed scent lingers deep after hours, take a shower, pick some flowers, stolen change. We're all here now and everything's okay. We're all coming over now, and we won't be leaving right away. I fall into a pit. Pit of sh*t and sh*t. Inside of it. I skip like so many school kids, think of when time stops, electricity. I am inside a cartoon and I can't feel a pinch but I like it like that, like it like that, like it like that. These trite, tattern ponchos and scarves say p*ss and five bucks about me. I grow the fur of an animal under my arms and cut my own lawn with silver nail clippers, supported by, short, grody fingers, blistered pressing wire hangers, scraping pie crust drippings. Place is like a field day scent, latex caricature. Ovens and clamming steel machines like the guts of a clock, tick tockin', rock n' roll, tick tockin', my generation, beating. Can you feel? Stink.
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Question : I had this weird and sort of sad dream this morning, what did it mean?
In my dream I saw a painting of a young adolescent dropping a book of fairy tales while watching to his left outside a window were women wearing too much cosmetics and jewelry, bags of money, a car sale, a restaurant selling caviar and red wine, a man selling cigarettes and cigars, drunken fat men, another man selling guns and knives for a hunting season and a woman opening a shop of trophies or medals. While on the boy's left side were fairies, mermaids and elves bound in chains and cages crying for the boy but he ignored them. what does this dream mean?
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Perhaps you are at a crossroads and have to make a financial decision. Perhaps the Fairies being bound is saying something about your inner child or imaginative side being suppressed. . Your memory of this dream is very vivid. I wonder how young you are. My dreams used to be vivid but I find as I get older they are dulling some.
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Question : Why are my kids rebelling?
I am a mother of three children. My oldest is a 16 year old son, then a 14 year old daughter, and an 12 year old daughter. They were all homeschooled up until last year when my husband lost his job and we had to move into an apartment and I had to get a job along with my husband looking for another job. So we had to send our kids to the local public school. My oldest, who was then 15, went into the 10th grade. Our middle child, who was 13, went into 8th grade. And our youngest, who was then 11, went into 6th grade. Now, we are a very religious Baptist Christian family, and our daughters are not allowed to wear skirts or dresses that are exposing the knee and are not permitted to wear shorts or pants at all. No jeans or tight pants for our boy, and no "sagging". T-shirts are also not permitted for either. The girls' wardrobe consists of khaki and dressy skirts, modest dresses, polos (all buttons done up and collar down), modest blouses, pearl jewelry, and modest flats. The boy's consists of khaki pants, polos, dress shirts, and polished dress shoes. They are not permitted to wear makeup. Both of our girls, at the beginning of the year, had very long curly hair so that they could almost sit on it. It was parted in the middle and naturally brown. Our boy had short and neatly combed and parted hair, again naturally brown. They were all wonderful children, but about a month into the school year they all started rebelling. First, my son refuses to get haircuts as well as refusing to brush his hair. Then my older daughter comes home from school with her hair cut to her shoulders and parted on the side with bangs. Then I catch my other daughter sitting outside our building talking to a boy! This boy looked about my older daughter's age and had long, messy hair and wore tight, cuffed jeans with checkered slip on shoes and a v-neck t-shirt under a zip up hoodie. It gets worse. My older daughter made some...interesting new friends at school and she asked if she could go out to a party with them. My answer was a firm no. Later that night, I was reading in bed and waiting for my husband to get home and I heard the door slam. I got up and, seeing that my husband was not home, checked the kids' rooms. My son and older daughter were both gone and my youngest was sleeping (or possibly faking sleep) in her bed. My oldest children got home sometime that night and I woke up and saw them both in the kitchen, chatting about whatever went on the previous night. My daughter was wearing black eyeliner and had a large purple bow in her hair. She had, however, changed into her nightgown. My son was sporting black and red hair, subtle black eyeliner, a white dress shirt, black skinny tie, a black vest, and tight black jeans covered in chains. He was wearing similar slip on shoes to the boy my youngest was talking to. Then my youngest came out with bangs and layers cut into her hair. It also looked like she had somehow bleached blonde into her bangs. I was furious! That following Monday, I looked through their rooms before I went to work (the boy has his own room and the girls share one). I looked through the computer they share and found many counts of unacceptable music under each of their music files. Under Kenneth, my son's, I found bands such as The Cure, Korn, The Cult, The Sisters of Mercy, Linkin Park, and Rites of Spring. My older daughter, Olivia, had bands such as Black Veil Brides, Blood On The Dance Floor, Jeffree Star, I Set My Friends On Fire, Parkway Drive, and Brokencyde. My youngest, Andrea, had music such as Bob Dylan, Death Cab for Cutie, Modest Mouse, The Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Neutral Milk Hotel, The Shins, Galt Aureus, and The Doors. All of this music is unacceptable, as it is all Satanic and poisonous to young minds such as theirs. And in my youngest daughter's clothes, I found ripped and cuffed jeans, v-neck t-shirts, converse, fashion scarves, and eyeliner! My older daughter had jeans, Hello Kitty jewelry, t-shirts with those vulgar bands she listens to on them, converse, neon ballet flats, shirts with skulls and robots, mini skirts, and many unacceptable t-shirts. I found no bottoms that were not denim! And as for my son, everything at the back of his closet (where they all hid their clothes) was either black, white, or red. He adorned everything with chains and safety pins, with the occasional Cure t-shirt. He had large skate shoes and a pair of combat boots. I also found piercing needles and tongue jewelry! I went through the older ones' texts (youngest doesnt have a phone) and they're both dating someone! I also caught my youngest kissing a boy! What is wrong with my kids and how do I fix them?
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please reread your description above of your rules and then honestly answer the question you have by yourself. i am sure you raised your children properly, and like it or not they are growing up to be their own people! i think youd find less problems with them if you learned to relax. they wont respect you for trying to rule their life. and before you know it they will be 18 and away from all your rules. my parents sound very very similar to you and i was raised in much the same way. we are no longer on speaking terms which is sad for them because im happily married with a baby on the way and loving my life. you dont want to miss out on pieces of their lives for being too critical.
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Question : Why are my kids rebelling?
I am a mother of three (soon to be four!) children. My oldest is a 17 year old son, then 14 year old twin girls. They were all homeschooled up until last year when my husband lost his job and we had to move into an apartment and I had to get a job along with my husband looking for another job. So we had to send our kids to the local public school. My oldest, who was then 16, went into the 11th grade. And our girls, who were 13, went to 8th grade. Now, we are a very religious Baptist Christian family, and our daughters are not allowed to wear skirts or dresses that are exposing the knee and are not permitted to wear shorts or pants at all. No jeans or tight pants for our boy, and no "sagging". T-shirts are also not permitted for either. The girls' wardrobe consists of khaki and dressy skirts, modest dresses, polos (all buttons done up and collar down), modest blouses, pearl jewelry, and modest flats. The boy's consists of khaki pants, polos, dress shirts, and polished dress shoes. They are not permitted to wear makeup. Both of our girls, at the beginning of the year, had very long curly hair so that they could almost sit on it. It was parted in the middle and naturally brown. Our boy had short and neatly combed and parted hair, again naturally brown. They were all wonderful children, but about a month into the school year they all started rebelling. First, my son Parker refuses to get haircuts as well as refusing to brush his hair. Then my daughter Angela comes home from school with her hair cut to her shoulders and parted on the side with bangs. Then I catch my other daughter Kayla sitting outside our building talking to a boy! This boy looked about 15 and had messy hair with long bangs and was wearing dark blue cargo shorts, a tight black t-shirt that said "blink-182" on it, large and bulky-looking skate shoes, big black things in his ear shaped like circles, and a black and white studded cuff on his wrist. It gets worse. Angela made some...interesting new friends at school and she asked if she could go out to a party with them. My answer was a firm no. Later that night, I was reading in bed and waiting for my husband to get home and I heard the door slam. I got up and, seeing that my husband was not home, checked the kids' rooms. All of my children were gone. They got home sometime that night and I woke up and saw them all in the kitchen, chatting about whatever went on the previous night. Angela was wearing black eyeliner and had a large purple bow in her hair. She had, however, changed into her nightgown. Kayla had on baggy black cargo shorts that went down to her knees, a t-shirt that said "NoFX" across it, a bunch of colored little bracelets on her wrists, a studded cuff around her ankle, and was wearing dirty, beat up black low top converse; her eye makeup was dark like her sister's but without the neon eyeshadow. My son was sporting black and red hair, subtle black eyeliner, a white dress shirt, black skinny tie, a black vest, and tight black jeans covered in chains. He was wearing black and white checkered slip on shoes without socks. Then Kayla came out with bangs and layers cut into her hair. It also looked like she had somehow bleached blonde into her bangs and straightened her hair. I was furious! That following Monday, I looked through their rooms before I went to work (the boy has his own room and the girls share one). I looked through the computer they share and found many counts of unacceptable music under each of their music files. Under Parker, my son's, I found bands such as The Cure, Korn, The Cult, The Sisters of Mercy, Linkin Park, and Rites of Spring. Angela had bands such as Black Veil Brides, Blood On The Dance Floor, Jeffree Star, I Set My Friends On Fire, Parkway Drive, and Brokencyde. Kayla had music such as blink-182, NoFX, Sum 41, My Chemical Romance, Fall Out Boy, Green Day, The Ramones, The Dead Kennedys, Minor Threat, and Mötley Crüe. All of this music is unacceptable, as it is all Satanic and poisonous to young minds such as theirs. And in Kayla's, I found dark, ripped, tight jeans; v-neck t-shirts; converse; vans; t-shirts with bands such as NoFX, a hair straightener and hairspray; and eyeliner! Angela had jeans, Hello Kitty jewelry, t-shirts with those vulgar bands she listens to on them, converse, neon ballet flats, shirts with skulls and robots, mini skirts, and many unacceptable t-shirts. I found no bottoms that were not denim! And as for my son, everything at the back of his closet (where they all hid their clothes) was either black, white, or red. He adorned everything with chains and safety pins, with the occasional Cure t-shirt. He had large skate shoes and a pair of combat boots. I also found piercing needles and tongue jewelry! I also went through their texts and they're all dating someone! What's wrong with my kids and how do I fix them?
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I am a mother of three (soon to be four!) children. My oldest is a 17 year old son, then 14 year old twin girls. They were all homeschooled up until last year when my husband lost his job and we had to move into an apartment and I had to get a job along with my husband looking for another job. So we had to send our kids to the local public school. My oldest, who was then 16, went into the 11th grade. And our girls, who were 13, went to 8th grade. Now, we are a very religious Baptist Christian family, and our daughters are not allowed to wear skirts or dresses that are exposing the knee and are not permitted to wear shorts or pants at all. No jeans or tight pants for our boy, and no "sagging". T-shirts are also not permitted for either. The girls' wardrobe consists of khaki and dressy skirts, modest dresses, polos (all buttons done up and collar down), modest blouses, pearl jewelry, and modest flats. The boy's consists of khaki pants, polos, dress shirts, and polished dress shoes. They are not permitted to wear makeup. Both of our girls, at the beginning of the year, had very long curly hair so that they could almost sit on it. It was parted in the middle and naturally brown. Our boy had short and neatly combed and parted hair, again naturally brown. They were all wonderful children, but about a month into the school year they all started rebelling. First, my son Parker refuses to get haircuts as well as refusing to brush his hair. Then my daughter Angela comes home from school with her hair cut to her shoulders and parted on the side with bangs. Then I catch my other daughter Kayla sitting outside our building talking to a boy! This boy looked about 15 and had messy hair with long bangs and was wearing dark blue cargo shorts, a tight black t-shirt that said "blink-182" on it, large and bulky-looking skate shoes, big black things in his ear shaped like circles, and a black and white studded cuff on his wrist. It gets worse. Angela made some...interesting new friends at school and she asked if she could go out to a party with them. My answer was a firm no. Later that night, I was reading in bed and waiting for my husband to get home and I heard the door slam. I got up and, seeing that my husband was not home, checked the kids' rooms. All of my children were gone. They got home sometime that night and I woke up and saw them all in the kitchen, chatting about whatever went on the previous night. Angela was wearing black eyeliner and had a large purple bow in her hair. She had, however, changed into her nightgown. Kayla had on baggy black cargo shorts that went down to her knees, a t-shirt that said "NoFX" across it, a bunch of colored little bracelets on her wrists, a studded cuff around her ankle, and was wearing dirty, beat up black low top converse; her eye makeup was dark like her sister's but without the neon eyeshadow. My son was sporting black and red hair, subtle black eyeliner, a white dress shirt, black skinny tie, a black vest, and tight black jeans covered in chains. He was wearing black and white checkered slip on shoes without socks. Then Kayla came out with bangs and layers cut into her hair. It also looked like she had somehow bleached blonde into her bangs and straightened her hair. I was furious! That following Monday, I looked through their rooms before I went to work (the boy has his own room and the girls share one). I looked through the computer they share and found many counts of unacceptable music under each of their music files. Under Parker, my son's, I found bands such as The Cure, Korn, The Cult, The Sisters of Mercy, Linkin Park, and Rites of Spring. Angela had bands such as Black Veil Brides, Blood On The Dance Floor, Jeffree Star, I Set My Friends On Fire, Parkway Drive, and Brokencyde. Kayla had music such as blink-182, NoFX, Sum 41, My Chemical Romance, Fall Out Boy, Green Day, The Ramones, The Dead Kennedys, Minor Threat, and Mötley Crüe. All of this music is unacceptable, as it is all Satanic and poisonous to young minds such as theirs. And in Kayla's, I found dark, ripped, tight jeans; v-neck t-shirts; converse; vans; t-shirts with bands such as NoFX, a hair straightener and hairspray; and eyeliner! Angela had jeans, Hello Kitty jewelry, t-shirts with those vulgar bands she listens to on them, converse, neon ballet flats, shirts with skulls and robots, mini skirts, and many unacceptable t-shirts. I found no bottoms that were not denim! And as for my son, everything at the back of his closet (where they all hid their clothes) was either black, white, or red. He adorned everything with chains and safety pins, with the occasional Cure t-shirt. He had large skate shoes and a pair of combat boots. I also found piercing needles and tongue jewelry! I also went through their texts and they're all dating someone! What's wrong with my kids and how do I fix them?
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Question : Why are my kids rebelling?
I am a mother of three (soon to be four!) children. My oldest is a 17 year old son, then 14 year old twin girls. They were all homeschooled up until last year when my husband lost his job and we had to move into an apartment and I had to get a job along with my husband looking for another job. So we had to send our kids to the local public school. My oldest, who was then 16, went into the 11th grade. And our girls, who were 13, went to 8th grade.Now, we are a very religious Baptist Christian family, and our daughters are not allowed to wear skirts or dresses that are exposing the knee and are not permitted to wear shorts or pants at all. No jeans or tight pants for our boy, and no "sagging". T-shirts are also not permitted for either. The girls' wardrobe consists of khaki and dressy skirts, modest dresses, polos (all buttons done up and collar down), modest blouses, pearl jewelry, and modest flats. The boy's consists of khaki pants, polos, dress shirts, and polished dress shoes. They are not permitted to wear makeup. Both of our girls, at the beginning of the year, had very long curly hair so that they could almost sit on it. It was parted in the middle and naturally brown. Our boy had short and neatly combed and parted hair, again naturally brown. They were all wonderful children, but about a month into the school year they all started rebelling. First, my son Parker refuses to get haircuts as well as refusing to brush his hair. Then my daughter Angela comes home from school with her hair cut to her shoulders and parted on the side with bangs. Then I catch my other daughter Kayla sitting outside our building talking to a boy! This boy looked about 15 and had messy hair with long bangs and was wearing dark blue cargo shorts, a tight black t-shirt that said "blink-182" on it, large and bulky-looking skate shoes, big black things in his ear shaped like circles, and a black and white studded cuff on his wrist. It gets worse. Angela made some...interesting new friends at school and she asked if she could go out to a party with them. My answer was a firm no. Later that night, I was reading in bed and waiting for my husband to get home and I heard the door slam. I got up and, seeing that my husband was not home, checked the kids' rooms. All of my children were gone.They got home sometime that night and I woke up and saw them all in the kitchen, chatting about whatever went on the previous night. Angela was wearing black eyeliner and had a large purple bow in her hair. She had, however, changed into her nightgown. Kayla had on baggy black cargo shorts that went down to her knees, a t-shirt that said "NoFX" across it, a bunch of colored little bracelets on her wrists, a studded cuff around her ankle, and was wearing dirty, beat up black low top converse; her eye makeup was dark like her sister's but without the neon eyeshadow. My son was sporting black and red hair, subtle black eyeliner, a white dress shirt, black skinny tie, a black vest, and tight black jeans covered in chains. He was wearing black and white checkered slip on shoes without socks. Then Kayla came out with bangs and layers cut into her hair. It also looked like she had somehow bleached blonde into her bangs and straightened her hair. I was furious! That following Monday, I looked through their rooms before I went to work (the boy has his own room and the girls share one). I looked through the computer they share and found many counts of unacceptable music under each of their music files. Under Parker, my son's, I found bands such as The Cure, Korn, The Cult, The Sisters of Mercy, Linkin Park, and Rites of Spring. Angela had bands such as Black Veil Brides, Blood On The Dance Floor, Jeffree Star, I Set My Friends On Fire, Parkway Drive, and Brokencyde. Kayla had music such as blink-182, NoFX, Sum 41, My Chemical Romance, Fall Out Boy, Green Day, The Ramones, The Dead Kennedys, Minor Threat, and Mötley Crüe. All of this music is unacceptable, as it is all Satanic and poisonous to young minds such as theirs. And in Kayla's, I found dark, ripped, tight jeans; v-neck t-shirts; converse; vans; t-shirts with bands such as NoFX, a hair straightener and hairspray; and eyeliner! Angela had jeans, Hello Kitty jewelry, t-shirts with those vulgar bands she listens to on them, converse, neon ballet flats, shirts with skulls and robots, mini skirts, and many unacceptable t-shirts. I found no bottoms that were not denim! And as for my son, everything at the back of his closet (where they all hid their clothes) was either black, white, or red. He adorned everything with chains and safety pins, with the occasional Cure t-shirt. He had large skate shoes and a pair of combat boots. I also found piercing needles and tongue jewelry! I went through their texts and they're all dating someone! What is wrong with my kids and how do I fix them?I'm expecting a baby in April and I don't want him/her to be negatively influenced.
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Firstly i am 99% sure that you are some troll. But anyways, in case you are not:Dear madame/sir it is completely against both ethics and God to force your chlidren into being something they aren't, kill their personalities and ENSLAVE them.If they kept living their lives as your slaves doing,saying,wearing what you make them do,say and wear, than they would develop mental illnesses and low self esteems, they would be unable to develop their personalities and social skills. Do you really want that for them?P.S They have really horrible taste in music.
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Question : Why are my kids rebelling?
I am a mother of three (soon to be four!) children. My oldest is a 17 year old son, then 14 year old twin girls. They were all homeschooled up until last year when my husband lost his job and we had to move into an apartment and I had to get a job along with my husband looking for another job. So we had to send our kids to the local public school. My oldest, who was then 16, went into the 11th grade. And our girls, who were 13, went to 8th grade.Now, we are a very religious Baptist Christian family, and our daughters are not allowed to wear skirts or dresses that are exposing the knee and are not permitted to wear shorts or pants at all. No jeans or tight pants for our boy, and no "sagging". T-shirts are also not permitted for either. The girls' wardrobe consists of khaki and dressy skirts, modest dresses, polos (all buttons done up and collar down), modest blouses, pearl jewelry, and modest flats. The boy's consists of khaki pants, polos, dress shirts, and polished dress shoes. They are not permitted to wear makeup. Both of our girls, at the beginning of the year, had very long curly hair so that they could almost sit on it. It was parted in the middle and naturally brown. Our boy had short and neatly combed and parted hair, again naturally brown. They were all wonderful children, but about a month into the school year they all started rebelling. First, my son Parker refuses to get haircuts as well as refusing to brush his hair. Then my daughter Angela comes home from school with her hair cut to her shoulders and parted on the side with bangs. Then I catch my other daughter Kayla sitting outside our building talking to a boy! This boy looked about 15 and had messy hair with long bangs and was wearing dark blue cargo shorts, a tight black t-shirt that said "blink-182" on it, large and bulky-looking skate shoes, big black things in his ear shaped like circles, and a black and white studded cuff on his wrist. It gets worse. Angela made some...interesting new friends at school and she asked if she could go out to a party with them. My answer was a firm no. Later that night, I was reading in bed and waiting for my husband to get home and I heard the door slam. I got up and, seeing that my husband was not home, checked the kids' rooms. All of my children were gone.They got home sometime that night and I woke up and saw them all in the kitchen, chatting about whatever went on the previous night. Angela was wearing black eyeliner and had a large purple bow in her hair. She had, however, changed into her nightgown. Kayla had on baggy black cargo shorts that went down to her knees, a t-shirt that said "NoFX" across it, a bunch of colored little bracelets on her wrists, a studded cuff around her ankle, and was wearing dirty, beat up black low top converse; her eye makeup was dark like her sister's but without the neon eyeshadow. My son was sporting black and red hair, subtle black eyeliner, a white dress shirt, black skinny tie, a black vest, and tight black jeans covered in chains. He was wearing black and white checkered slip on shoes without socks. Then Kayla came out with bangs and layers cut into her hair. It also looked like she had somehow bleached blonde into her bangs and straightened her hair. I was furious! That following Monday, I looked through their rooms before I went to work (the boy has his own room and the girls share one). I looked through the computer they share and found many counts of unacceptable music under each of their music files. Under Parker, my son's, I found bands such as The Cure, Korn, The Cult, The Sisters of Mercy, Linkin Park, and Rites of Spring. Angela had bands such as Black Veil Brides, Blood On The Dance Floor, Jeffree Star, I Set My Friends On Fire, Parkway Drive, and Brokencyde. Kayla had music such as blink-182, NoFX, Sum 41, My Chemical Romance, Fall Out Boy, Green Day, The Ramones, The Dead Kennedys, Minor Threat, and Mötley Crüe. All of this music is unacceptable, as it is all Satanic and poisonous to young minds such as theirs. And in Kayla's, I found dark, ripped, tight jeans; v-neck t-shirts; converse; vans; t-shirts with bands such as NoFX, a hair straightener and hairspray; and eyeliner! Angela had jeans, Hello Kitty jewelry, t-shirts with those vulgar bands she listens to on them, converse, neon ballet flats, shirts with skulls and robots, mini skirts, and many unacceptable t-shirts. I found no bottoms that were not denim! And as for my son, everything at the back of his closet (where they all hid their clothes) was either black, white, or red. He adorned everything with chains and safety pins, with the occasional Cure t-shirt. He had large skate shoes and a pair of combat boots. I also found piercing needles and tongue jewelry! I went through their texts and they're all dating someone! What is wrong with my kids and how do I fix them? I'm expecting a baby next April and I don't want him/*I don't want him/her being negatively influenced.
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Loosen up or you'll lose them. This is what happens when you isolate them for so many years and then expose them suddenly to the world. This happened to a friend of mine I went to high school with.She was 14 and the oldest of 4 children when the parents put her in public school. And her brother was 12. It was culture shock, wanting to fit in... they stayed the night at our house or another girlfriend to go to a dance because he parents wouldn't let her. I mean, it was harmless,,, she's now married with two little girls. And the brother is now married, and is a pastor, with one little girl. The other two siblings were younger, and I don't know much about them anymore because they moved away.... but your children would be better equipped to handle the REAL world if you explain to them how to navigate it. So far you have given them no clues, and not much choice in individuality. I don't see what hair cutting has to do with believing in Jesus, or what a Music Band on a t-shirt has to do with it.
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Question : Why are my children rebelling all the sudden?
I am a mother of three children. My oldest is a 16 year old son, then a 14 year old daughter, and an 12 year old daughter. They were all homeschooled up until last year when my husband lost his job and we had to move into an apartment and I had to get a job along with my husband looking for another job. So we had to send our kids to the local public school. My oldest, who was then 15, went into the 10th grade. Our middle child, who was 13, went into 8th grade. And our youngest, who was then 11, went into 6th grade.Now, we are a very religious Baptist Christian family, and our daughters are not allowed to wear skirts or dresses that are exposing the knee and are not permitted to wear shorts or pants at all. No jeans or tight pants for our boy, and no "sagging". T-shirts are also not permitted for either. The girls' wardrobe consists of khaki and dressy skirts, modest dresses, polos (all buttons done up and collar down), modest blouses, pearl jewelry, and modest flats. The boy's consists of khaki pants, polos, dress shirts, and polished dress shoes. They are not permitted to wear makeup. Both of our girls, at the beginning of the year, had very long curly hair so that they could almost sit on it. It was parted in the middle and naturally brown. Our boy had short and neatly combed and parted hair, again naturally brown. They were all wonderful children, but about a month into the school year they all started rebelling.First, my son refuses to get haircuts as well as refusing to brush his hair. Then my older daughter comes home from school with her hair cut to her shoulders and parted on the side with bangs. Then I catch my other daughter sitting outside our building talking to a boy! This boy looked about my older daughter's age and had long, messy hair and wore tight, cuffed jeans with checkered slip on shoes and a v-neck t-shirt under a zip up hoodie. It gets worse.My older daughter made some...interesting new friends at school and she asked if she could go out to a party with them. My answer was a firm no. Later that night, I was reading in bed and waiting for my husband to get home and I heard the door slam. I got up and, seeing that my husband was not home, checked the kids' rooms. My son and older daughter were both gone and my youngest was sleeping (or possibly faking sleep) in her bed. My oldest children got home sometime that night and I woke up and saw them both in the kitchen, chatting about whatever went on the previous night. My daughter was wearing black eyeliner and had a large purple bow in her hair. She had, however, changed into her nightgown. My son was sporting black and red hair, subtle black eyeliner, a white dress shirt, black skinny tie, a black vest, and tight black jeans covered in chains. He was wearing similar slip on shoes to the boy my youngest was talking to. Then my youngest came out with bangs and layers cut into her hair. It also looked like she had somehow bleached blonde into her bangs. I was furious! That following Monday, I looked through their rooms before I went to work (the boy has his own room and the girls share one). I looked through the computer they share and found many counts of unacceptable music under each of their music files. Under Kenneth, my son's, I found bands such as The Cure, Korn, The Cult, The Sisters of Mercy, Linkin Park, and Rites of Spring. My older daughter, Olivia, had bands such as Black Veil Brides, Blood On The Dance Floor, Jeffree Star, I Set My Friends On Fire, Parkway Drive, and Brokencyde. My youngest, Andrea, had music such as Bob Dylan, Death Cab for Cutie, Modest Mouse, The Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Neutral Milk Hotel, The Shins, Galt Aureus, and The Doors. All of this music is unacceptable, as it is all Satanic and poisonous to young minds such as theirs. And in my youngest daughter's clothes, I found ripped and cuffed jeans, v-neck t-shirts, converse, fashion scarves, and eyeliner! My older daughter had jeans, Hello Kitty jewelry, t-shirts with those vulgar bands she listens to on them, converse, neon ballet flats, shirts with skulls and robots, mini skirts, and many unacceptable t-shirts. I found no bottoms that were not denim! And as for my son, everything at the back of his closet (where they all hid their clothes) was either black, white, or red. He adorned everything with chains and safety pins, with the occasional Cure t-shirt. He had large skate shoes and a pair of combat boots. I also found piercing needles and tongue jewelry! I went through the older ones' texts (youngest doesnt have a phone) and they're both dating someone! I also caught my youngest kissing a boy! What is wrong with my kids and how do I fix them?
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Man I thought my mom was bad! Wow.. You can't control every single thing about them.! Let them live a little.. I was raised almost the same way.. And let me tell you everything you put in there minds about Jesus is going to stick with them. But when you say the words "fix" them and" strict ward robe" and "religion" that's is totally against what God is all about. God wants your children to freely choose him. Now it all came so quickly( the rebelliousness) because they have been so bombarded with being hidden from the world and hidden from wordly music and clothes and the opposite sex, that it's all so much for them. U can't expect your children to be little perfect Angels. Let them find Jesus. Just help them find the rode don't push them on it. Have you ever thought to go shopping with them.? And have them choose what they want to wear? Have you ever thought to talk to them about things that don't always involve church and god and being so perfect.? Religion is not by any means a relationship with God. Religion is mans attempt to reach God. Relationship is Gods attempt to reach man. Be gentle with your children and loosen your hold on them. You don't want your kids to despise you.
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Question : why are my kids rebelling?
I am a mother of three (soon to be four!) children. My oldest is a 17 year old son, then 14 year old twin girls. They were all homeschooled up until last year when my husband lost his job and we had to move into an apartment and I had to get a job along with my husband looking for another job. So we had to send our kids to the local public school. My oldest, who was then 16, went into the 11th grade. And our girls, who were 13, went to 8th grade. Now, we are a very religious Baptist Christian family, and our daughters are not allowed to wear skirts or dresses that are exposing the knee and are not permitted to wear shorts or pants at all. No jeans or tight pants for our boy, and no "sagging". T-shirts are also not permitted for either. The girls' wardrobe consists of khaki and dressy skirts, modest dresses, polos (all buttons done up and collar down), modest blouses, pearl jewelry, and modest flats. The boy's consists of khaki pants, polos, dress shirts, and polished dress shoes. They are not permitted to wear makeup. Both of our girls, at the beginning of the year, had very long curly hair so that they could almost sit on it. It was parted in the middle and naturally brown. Our boy had short and neatly combed and parted hair, again naturally brown. They were all wonderful children, but about a month into the school year they all started rebelling. First, my son Parker refuses to get haircuts as well as refusing to brush his hair. Then my daughter Angela comes home from school with her hair cut to her shoulders and parted on the side with bangs. Then I catch my other daughter Kayla sitting outside our building talking to a boy! This boy looked about 15 and had messy hair with long bangs and was wearing dark blue cargo shorts, a tight black t-shirt that said "blink-182" on it, large and bulky-looking skate shoes, big black things in his ear shaped like circles, and a black and white studded cuff on his wrist. It gets worse. Angela made some...interesting new friends at school and she asked if she could go out to a party with them. My answer was a firm no. Later that night, I was reading in bed and waiting for my husband to get home and I heard the door slam. I got up and, seeing that my husband was not home, checked the kids' rooms. All of my children were gone. They got home sometime that night and I woke up and saw them all in the kitchen, chatting about whatever went on the previous night. Angela was wearing black eyeliner and had a large purple bow in her hair. She had, however, changed into her nightgown. Kayla had on baggy black cargo shorts that went down to her knees, a t-shirt that said "NoFX" across it, a bunch of colored little bracelets on her wrists, a studded cuff around her ankle, and was wearing dirty, beat up black low top converse; her eye makeup was dark like her sister's but without the neon eyeshadow. My son was sporting black and red hair, subtle black eyeliner, a white dress shirt, black skinny tie, a black vest, and tight black jeans covered in chains. He was wearing black and white checkered slip on shoes without socks. Then Kayla came out with bangs and layers cut into her hair. It also looked like she had somehow bleached blonde into her bangs and straightened her hair. I was furious! That following Monday, I looked through their rooms before I went to work (the boy has his own room and the girls share one). I looked through the computer they share and found many counts of unacceptable music under each of their music files. Under Parker, my son's, I found bands such as The Cure, Korn, The Cult, The Sisters of Mercy, Linkin Park, and Rites of Spring. Angela had bands such as Black Veil Brides, Blood On The Dance Floor, Jeffree Star, I Set My Friends On Fire, Parkway Drive, and Brokencyde. Kayla had music such as blink-182, NoFX, Sum 41, My Chemical Romance, Fall Out Boy, Green Day, The Ramones, The Dead Kennedys, Minor Threat, and Mötley Crüe. All of this music is unacceptable, as it is all Satanic and poisonous to young minds such as theirs. And in Kayla's, I found dark, ripped, tight jeans; v-neck t-shirts; converse; vans; t-shirts with bands such as NoFX, a hair straightener and hairspray; and eyeliner! Angela had jeans, Hello Kitty jewelry, t-shirts with those vulgar bands she listens to on them, converse, neon ballet flats, shirts with skulls and robots, mini skirts, and many unacceptable t-shirts. I found no bottoms that were not denim! And as for my son, everything at the back of his closet (where they all hid their clothes) was either black, white, or red. He adorned everything with chains and safety pins, with the occasional Cure t-shirt. He had large skate shoes and a pair of combat boots. I also found piercing needles and tongue jewelry! I also went through their texts and they're all dating someone! What's wrong with my kids and how do I fix them?
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Nothing is wrong with your kids. They are acting like normal kids their age. They want to fit in, they want to make friends. Your strict rules really restrict them from that, so they are just doing what they want. Sometimes it's better to make some cessions, say for example, you can wear jeans if you don't dye your hair. You can wear sneakers as long as you don't go out to any late-night parties. Stuff like that can be really important and still keep your kids at least somewhat close to their roots.The music you've listed is all music and teens listen to. Some of it is worst that some others, but that music doesn't even come close to how bad some songs are, so don't get too worried there, at least not yet.And, I wouldn't really call this rebelling, but more so that your kids have found the real world that there is outside of your house, which prior to going to school was all they knew. Changes such as this would have come about eventually (what are you going to do when your kids turn 18, and they are on their own?). However, these changes do not mean that they are still not religious. Just be sure that you keep them active in church and in the church community!
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